3.

    今天来了两个舍友，不过都是短租，一个住到25号，一个就住三天。她俩一看就是i人，打个招呼就回房间了，基本见不到面。

    不过短租也别想多熟了，等熟了人也走了。

    我把我跟那个黑人约去大英博物馆的事跟我爸妈和朋友说了，他们都不约而同说：“我不歧视黑人，但是离他们远点。”

    我觉得我刚来这里才几天，就跟一个只见过一面的人出去玩，确实不太好，于是我又约了我的飞机搭子一起去，飞机搭子又叫上了他的朋友，然后我跟那个小哥发短信：hello, I have some Chinese friends they want to go to the museum too, is it fine for you if they come with me?

    我本以为他会答应，毕竟老外在我们的印象里都是很喜欢热闹也愿意结交朋友的，没想到二十分钟后他回我说：Morning, thanks for letting me know.

    Is it okay with you to meet up with your friends afterwards. Or maybe on a different day?

    Would be good if it was just us two on Saturday morning to see the exhibits.

    我觉得有点奇怪，不知道老外是都这样还是中国人内敛，只见过一次就约着两个人单独出去？

    于是我回道：I’m sorry to bother you, we came UK together and they also want to go to the British musuem, so I thought maybe we can go together and make friends too.

    ——How many people do you want to bring? Also-will me and you have a chance to eventually do an activity where it’s just the two of us?

    我觉得事情变得有些不对劲。

    ——For example, next week I can take you to see an immersive art exhibition or something else that’s fun.

    我只回了个：I have three friends on that day.

    ——Tbh I just want to get to know you more on a personal level, and I think with so many other people that would be difficult. I really liked learning about you yesterday!

    ——Would you consider meeting me for a coffee later on Saturday after you’ve met your friends at the museum?

    我觉得不太可，这才见了多久啊就想跟我personal level，不管老外是不是都这么自来熟，但我觉得不太合适。

    想了想我觉得还是要问清楚：I’m sorry, I don’t mean to offend you, but I wonder why you want meeting me alone? Just because in our culture it’s not good to be alone with people I have just met once. My English is not very well, I may offend you with my words, hope you do not mind with me.

    想了想我又发了一条：I’d like to make a friend with you, but I’m afraid I can’t with you on a personal level for now.

    过了半小时他他回我：Because if we go alone we can see how good our chemistry is together. It could possibly be like a date.

    I can also help you improve your English.

    我给我的室友看了这两条短信，她一脸嫌弃，“他肯定是个老手了！都不知道用这招泡了多少中国女学生！还教英文，教什么英文，你跟他说我可以帮你prove Chinese！”

    然后她催着我不要回短信，直接跟他断了。

    我也不知道是不是我想多了还是怎么，想着还是说一声，至少说清楚了，于是我回道：Sorry I don’t want have a date now, I just want to focus on my study, we can be good friends.

    二十分钟后他回我：It doesn’t have to be girlfriend/boyfriend.

    Can be just casual dating…

    I understand though that studies are important.

    So if you just want to be friends let me know.

    可能是见我一直没回，他又发了条短信给我：I actually wasn’t expecting you to text me this morning about bringing people. I was quite surprised actually.

    I hope its not because you’d feel unsafe with me.

    我远在北京的朋友云吃瓜，看到这条短信后说，你就回个“oh, you know, that’s good”。

    唉，我怎么能这么说，只好找了个借口。

    ——It’s not about you, I’m new here, I would like to go out with someone I’m familiar in a strange city.

    很快他就回我了：I see. Well I ant to be familiar with you!:)

    Not a stranger lol.

    我想着要不就这样吧，直到晚上八点多又给我发了条短信：You said I can’t see you at a personal level right now.

    Can you let me know when you have become more familiar with London, and more comfortable meeting new people? We can just go for a coffee in Central London or something.

    我不知道外国人的思维是怎么想的，反正对于我一个中国人来说，我觉得结交新朋友至少得一起出去玩几次，是跟很多人一起出去的那种，有熟悉的朋友的那种，这样熟悉下来再加个微信什么的聊聊，这样下来之后才能是personal level。

    就比如我带几个朋友跟这个小哥一起去大英博物馆，有我熟悉的人在我会觉得有安全感，在一个陌生城市跟一个只见过一面的人出去玩确实不太能够让人放心，我也不知道该怎么跟他解释，就这样吧。

    4.

    我那个唯一的e朋友戚星她也马上就要回国了，她现在是跟她的朋友share一个房间，那个姐姐人也很好，比我大五岁——好像来英国读本科的好少，基本都是研究生。那个姐姐邬辰辰也很厉害，UCL的研究生，现在毕业了，又申上了博士，还是理科专业，具体是物理还是化学啥的，我也不太清楚。

    今天还刚好有工人上门来刷墙涂漆、维修窗户，英国这边用的涂料说是那种浆式的，干得很快，刷完之后一会儿人就可以进去了。但我们宿舍六个房间，一个房间至少要一个小时，我就去了姐姐的房间跟她们聊天。

    姐姐帮我注册了NHS，等他们审核还得要一两天的时间，等NHS下来之后还得注册GP，这样我才能预约免费的HPV，包括以后看病什么的。